How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:06am
Mea Culpa! It's just that..I thought she was from TN, and she's so, well, different, and I thought maybe everyone from TN was that way and..well, it frightens me.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:20am
She also said that it was WARM where she lives, and that she would never want to live in the north. She said she LIVED in the south. She went on and on about how balmy it was last winter, 85 degrees to be exact. In Ohio? or even Tennesee? How many posts did you go on about how great it was to be living in a warm climate?

Give us a collective break meaghansangel, you can't even keep your own silly stories straight.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:24am
"And then I was given the virtues of boots. And parenting by some of these folks who put their children out in 50 degree weather."

Oh the horror of it all!

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:30am
BUSTED.

What have you got to say for yourself now meaghansangel?

You're lying,

no denying.

hey, I rhymed!, I'm no cocoapop

but I'm trying).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 11:47am

I think that's just WONDERFUL!!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:10pm
I'm not even halfway through this thread, but had to jump in. She never said she came first. She said she didn't come last. There is a difference. Like the kids come first, she comes second and the job comes last. That's an option. Just because she's not last does not automatically make her first. He DOES have other priorities.

Shannon

 

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Registered: 08-06-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:33pm
I don't think day care is that bad after all. Working a job and furthering a career does not make you a bad person/parent. How else would you provide for your kids. We live in a society that's everchanging as compared to our parents, if we want to be liberated women, some of us work extra hard to be efficient care givers just as well as we balance everthing else in life.
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:45pm


This is true...I had almost forgotten that (Alzheimer's IS genetic) I remember way back in highschool (When dinosaurs roamed the earth) there was talk of someday building a bridge between Alaska AND Russia but at the time the political atmosphere prevented it. Who knows maybe it will happen.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:47pm
Hey congrats there granny!! LOL-nt

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:01pm
"...and if you aren't feeding them, paying their mortgage or offering free help for them then BE QUIET!!!"

The point is...she IS offering free care to her stepsons. In their OWN home. She IS feeding them 12 days a month, as their father has joint custody. You think a stepparent has no say in raising their stepchildren??? How insane is that? If it wasn't for my stepfather, I wouldn't have had a father at all. Marriage is an equal partnership, IMO, and that includes decisions affecting the children, no matter whose DNA produced the children. Here's a question...if you had a stepson or stepdaughter who wanted a new car for his/her 16th birthday...you (as a family) couldn't really afford it, but your dh went out and bought one anyway (it's HIS child after all, not yours), would you be upset? Would expect your dh to tell you to stay out of it because it's not your child? I don't know what world you are living in, but it must be nice to have your head in the sand like that.

Shannon

 

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