How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 2:22pm
That still doesn't put Michigan anywhere near Kentucky. Unless Indiana just doesn't exist anymore? In that case, where am I living?

Shannon

 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 2:35pm
Wow, and I thought I was paranoid. You really think that anyone here is a stalker or murderer or something? And if you do, do you really think if you said "I live in Ohio" or wherever, they'd be able to go through the whole state and find "meghannsangel" from iVillage? Who would waste their time like that?? Certainly not me or anyone I know.

Shannon

 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 2:38pm
next adj.

Nearest in space or position; adjacent: the next room.

Immediately following, as in time, order, or sequence: next week; the next item on the list.


I don't think anyone was wrong in assuming that "right next" meant bordering. I think you are just trying to confuse the issue. Doing a pretty good job, too, since I'm not quite sure what the issue *you* were debating is.


Edited 12/24/2003 2:38:46 PM ET by cristi76

Shannon

 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 2:52pm
You never know, lol.

Shannon

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 3:06pm
The vote is for a troll. She admitted last night that she was here to mess up the boards. They deleted a bunch of posts where she was getting really weird. She actually had a friend join her.

Have a great Christmas!!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 3:24pm
mess up the boards, and post a 1000 posts. we need to *all* ignore her.
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Registered: 11-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 3:31pm
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Alaska and several other states have been known to get that cold when you count in the wind chill factor (or whatever they call it).

Mary


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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 3:45pm
Didn't you know? I AM the stalker...LMAO
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 3:46pm
Ahhh then she will be posting to herself...and snorting the "snow"
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 4:17pm
Cristi:

That is your situation, my daughter's step mother wasn't allowed to be present during her visitations with her father it was court ordered. And she was told specifically she had no impact on the decisions when it came to our daughter once again the judge addressed this the very last time she was allowed in the court house. After that she was escourted out of the court house she could wait for him in the car, on the street but not in the court house. And now she is no longer a stepmother she is nothing my ex divorced her.

So yes the judicial system can dictate what goes on. In our state there is a law in the revised code that says a 3rd party can not interefere with the parenting of a child. Which means step parents. If the custodial parent or the noncustodial parent has a problem with either or it can dictate how that child is treated. Just so you know the custodial parent has the authority over the decisions. There are many types of custudy arrangements.

Ultimate responsibility falls on the father and the biological mother not the step parent.

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