How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 4:56pm
Slim :

I don't drink alcohol. I work and volunteer however yes it keeps me out of trouble.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 4:57pm
Slim:

Your assuming I live in Ohio again. Maybe there is a special place in another state :)However if you want me to live in Ohio whats the sales tax rate there ? Is it lower then 9.5 percent?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:03pm
I didn't tell you the state I live in. I said the winter was 85 not the summers. I am southern and it is warm where I live. Just because I mention some of those places doesn't mean I live in them or maybe I do live in them for a specific amount of time. I could be a snow bird?

So what if I have more than one home? Wouldn't that be something or my home was on wheels the possibilities are endless. I am keeping up but the mere fact that you all assume was the point I was making and I made it.

Still you don't have the state. It's good to keep you all guessing. I am not going to say.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:06pm
May i ask what auto immune deficiency disease that is?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:09pm
I am not lying but you keep trying

To figure out where I live

I will give you a clue but it won't help you

I don't live in a shoe or a boot.

So the point is moot.

And you haven't figured out where I live hehehe.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:15pm
Cristi:

My grandmother after my dad's father passed away married a man he was step father to my dad who thought of him as a father. He passed away she married another man and had children and he has 3 girls who think the 12 other children are not there father. So not all step parents are wicked or nasty or mean. However; the thing is she has her own son in nursery school. And maybe mom in the situation doesn't like or know the step mother. However; step mother mentioned he tried to take custody of her one time before so she may that have that on the mind and trust would be a factor or issue.

As far as boyfriend, the dad and step mother believe it to be a boyfriend they could be married. I know I let my ex believe whatever he wants until we get infront of the judge and then he is usually busted. She might be mind gaming him. Because of their situation who knows.

However; if it was truly concern for the boys then she would be addressing the husband about spending more time at home for the children as well. And another thing bio mom an dad could work something out if the pettiness and backstabbing stopped.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:22pm
Actually, I don't thing either side is being fair to all the children involved. Meaning I put my child first in everything and I work around her and she gets everything so much so that I do without or what have you. And I don't see that with this situation at all.

I think all of them need to look at what happens when you divorce and combine children. Just think what is gonna happen when step mom has a child with dad. She is working to pay for the children however; maybe she needs to cut back or do something else to accomodate them. As far as daycare or preschool I find nothing wrong with either. I think the children learn a great deal.



For instance when my daughter went to kindergarten she was the only one in her class that had went the other's couldn't write their name, do their abcs, tell you the states or a great deal of other things. Such as beginning reading skills. I was speaking to some of the other parents and they felt that was what kindergarten was for. Then I checked out what the curriculm was in the public education system and they were reading and teaching reading skills. So I think preschool and a daycare that is teaching is excellent plus you have to work with the child yourself. They don't get academics by osmosis.

However;the original poster who is educated in the field of education should realize this.b

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:24pm
Mygriffin :

Sure do and my uncle owns some establishments there too :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:26pm
Who the H cares
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:27pm
Autoimmune disease not deficiency Autoimmune deficiency is Aids. I have more than one unfortunately thanks to my genetics which I have worked and still working on figuring out how and why.b

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