How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:29pm
About what? Since this is 933 thanks getting there. Keep up the good work :)
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:38pm
sorry. then which autoimmune diseases do you have? i have psoriasis.
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Registered: 12-06-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:39pm
How sweet! Congrats to the family! nt
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 6:35pm
You said in another post it was hypothyroidism. That makes you "sensitive to cold air". Big difference between being sensitive and getting sick. Everything I've read also says that you would be just fine if you wore proper clothing.

Shannon

 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 6:41pm
"However; the thing is she has her own son in nursery school."

For a few hours a week, so he can have interaction with other children. Would you prefer he be isolated and never learn any social skills?

"And maybe mom in the situation doesn't like or know the step mother."

Who cares whether mom likes the step mom? What matters is what's best for the children, and whether THEY like their step mom. Apparently they do, or they would be hitting their step mom instead of their mother. Why can't the mother put aside her petty bull**** and let the kids go to their other home rather than go to day care?

Shannon

 

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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 6:45pm
I have hypothyroidism...have been since half of my thryroid was remved by surgery. I'm not really all that sensetive to cold. I have yet to turn on my heater, however I wear sweatshirts, and sweaters during the winter months. My thermostat is set at 68 degrees and right now I have the windows open. Again I have kept myself "climatized" since moving back to California to New York which is probably why I feel the cold less than alot of people here. You should see the looks I get when I get out of my car in just a sweatshirt and jeans and everyone else is wearing thier LLBeans LOL.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 7:38pm
Better she be on the West Coast than the East Coast, IMO!!! LOL!
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 7:40pm
Maybe SHE caused the earthquake the other day.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Thu, 12-25-2003 - 9:52pm
Graves,Addisons, MS
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Thu, 12-25-2003 - 9:55pm
The endocrinologist calls multiple endocrine failure. Cause I am hypoglycemic as well. ECM I am sorry to hear that. Do you just have the kind that affects the skin or the scalp as well. I know that it's kinda itchy and some discomfort with that.

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