How do you do it?
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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm |
I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????
I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.
My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:
She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!
Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.
Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Wow, I really screwed up on this one! I started school, got married, had my first DS, got divorced, went back to school, got remarried, finished school and then had my second DS. Still waiting to get the good job.
:) I know this is the ideal order, I was just amazed at how much easier it would've been if I'd done it this way. Of course I kind of like having my first at 23, so I'll have time after they are out of high school to travel, etc.
Mary
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why hasn't your husband realized this fact? By this, I mean going down to your local courthouse and filing for custody. Obviously, you are in a better position as a family to take care of the children. Dad needs to get a back-bone and do his duty - which is to do what is in the best interest of the children. Please get him to see the light and act fast.
Well this is the way you did it and you will make the best of it. I finished high school, but dropped out of college after the first semester, got married before my husband shipped off to Vietnam and had two babies by the time I was 21. Got divorced, raised my kids with no help from ex. We all survived. I'm a young grandma. It's the harder road, but it's the one you're on and you'll do fine.
Hugs.
Grandma J
After that I was once again on my own and remained so until I married at age 27. Never did go to college full time but I took a few courses and ended up quarter shy of a degree in American Sign Language because my then husband decided he didn't want me driving in the snow back and forth the 25 miles to school to finish. Had my daughter at 32, a histerectomy at 40 and here I am now at 50 getting divorced, moved back to California and finally think somewhere along the line regained control. But that could all change tomorrow...LOL
Sounds like it's time to put yourself first. I've made so many mistakes in my life that I have no claim to knowing what's right. I learned about life the way I learned about cars--I never heard of a timing chain until one broke while I was driving. I learned about life as I lived it and made one mistake after another. I'm only 52 and figure I have a fair number of mistakes left before I check out, but I have also acquired some wisdom along the way, as you have as well. My favorite quote in the whole world is by John Lennon: "Life is what happens while we are busy making other plans."
Good luck and hugs.
Grandma J
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