How do you do it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2008
How do you do it?
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 11:19am

To all you ladies that drop your infants off at daycare, how do you do it? I have to go back to work in 45 days, and when I look at my sweet little babys face and think of strangers holding her, I just tear up. I thought i'd be able to stay home, but my husband would rather me work, and I don't want to cause tension in our relationship. Why have kids if you can't take care of them? My sil drops her 3 off from 7am to 6 pm. What's the point of having them?


Any helpful advice?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:08pm

I remember saying prior to having kids


"I'll never work when I have kids. The thought of getting kids ready along with myself in the morning and up and out of the house in the early morning exhausts me".


When that thought actually became a reality, I sucked it up.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:09pm

Ah, yes, I was a

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Registered: 05-27-1998
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:14pm

Imagining it is much worse than doing it. I'm assuming you like the daycare you've chosen (and if not, there's still time to find another one). When you see how welcoming they are, you won't feel the way you do now. It isn't easy, but it's nowhere near as difficult as you imagine. And I think that's true of a lot of milestones, like sending your kid off on the school bus or dropping her and some friends off at the mall without a parent (as I

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:18pm

"I know you really want to attack me with this double standard thing, but I feel that dads are just as responsible for the care of their children."


I'm sorry for the way I started responding to you on this thread.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2008
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:30pm

"I wanted to make the point that one shouldn't blame the mother for daycare hour usage solely. It's not fair."


Agreed. Maybe my bil should be more flexible and work different hours to lessen the amt of time his kids are in daycare. I just won't ever think that 11 hours a day is ok. That really is a very long day.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2008
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:39pm

"Ah, so the real crux of your post is to diss your awful SIL."


Actually no it was not, but since it was pointed out to me that this is indeed a debate board, why not debate that 11 hours is a long day for a 1 and 3 year old to be in day care?


And nowhere in my post did I say this woman is awful. I disagree with the amt of hours one's children should be in other care.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:42pm
i looked at sah much differently pre-kids than after.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:46pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2008
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:49pm
In my opinion? I guess up to 8? I guess it would depend on many things though. Children are all different.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2007
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:50pm

I'm curious to see her answer...

I'm also curious to know whether it's the amount of hours spent in DC or just away from the parent that truly matters in OP's opinion.

For example, my DD is in DC from 7am - 445pm, when her grandmother picks her up. I, however, do not get home from work until 6pm, so she is away from me for a total of 11 hours, but only in DC for 9 3/4.

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