How do you do it?

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Registered: 03-12-2008
How do you do it?
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 11:19am

To all you ladies that drop your infants off at daycare, how do you do it? I have to go back to work in 45 days, and when I look at my sweet little babys face and think of strangers holding her, I just tear up. I thought i'd be able to stay home, but my husband would rather me work, and I don't want to cause tension in our relationship. Why have kids if you can't take care of them? My sil drops her 3 off from 7am to 6 pm. What's the point of having them?


Any helpful advice?

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 12:08pm
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In reply to: jadm08
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 11:56pm

Everyone has to make their own decision...and while my husband can support me, that's not what I want. I am a rare species (I think!) who actually enjoys working. I love my job, having colleagues, having deadlines, office b-days, board meetings, special events, traveling for work. What can I say? Does that make me selfish? Who knows."


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Registered: 04-06-2008
In reply to: jadm08
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 10:23am

wow, i just read the first 40 responses or so, and you sure got beat up over this. I for one, completely agree with you that 11 hours is a long time for kids to be away from their parents. Does your sil has to work that man hours to make ends meet or is it by choice to further her career?


I had a very hard time leaving my first child in daycare. She was about 2 when I had to put her in, part time, 5 days a week, and it broke my heart. I cried the first day, but it got easier as the days went on, she was having fun, playing with the other kids, and she was well taken care of. As soon as I was able to though, I stopped working so I could be at home with her again, and I'm so happy I was able too. Nothing wrong with working mothers, or with daycare, but in my opinion if you can be at home with your children, then you should be. I hope everything works out for you, it will be okay, kids get used to it, then your time with them if that much more special.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
In reply to: jadm08
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 10:30am

>>Nothing wrong with working mothers, or with daycare, but in my opinion if you can be at home with your children, then you should be.<<


Aren't you contradicting yourself a bit there?

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Registered: 07-23-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 9:20am


These are the passive/aggressive statements that drive me batty.

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In reply to: jadm08
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 5:45pm

Does your sil has to work that man hours to make ends meet or is it by choice to further her career?"


Furthering ones career is a bad thing? PLEASE. I often work 11 and 12 hour days to "further" my career --- so that I make more money for my *family.* Its all about team MM, not about my career specifically anymore. If long hours are the difference between 6 and 7 figures -- you bet I'll put them in and I do.


"I had a very hard time leaving my first child in daycare. She was about 2 when I had to put her in, part time, 5 days a week, and it broke my heart. I cried the first day, but it got easier as the days went on, she was having fun, playing with the other kids, and she was well taken care of. As soon as I was able to though, I stopped working so I could be at home with her again, and I'm so happy I was able too. Nothing wrong with working mothers, or with daycare, but in my opinion if you can be at home with your children, then you should be."


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In reply to: jadm08
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 11:27pm

"Nothing wrong with working mothers, or with daycare, but in my opinion if you can be at home with your children, then you should be."


I would edit that to say "if you can be at home with your children AND YOU WANT TO BE, then you should be."


I could be, don't want to be.

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