How do you do it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2008
How do you do it?
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 11:19am

To all you ladies that drop your infants off at daycare, how do you do it? I have to go back to work in 45 days, and when I look at my sweet little babys face and think of strangers holding her, I just tear up. I thought i'd be able to stay home, but my husband would rather me work, and I don't want to cause tension in our relationship. Why have kids if you can't take care of them? My sil drops her 3 off from 7am to 6 pm. What's the point of having them?


Any helpful advice?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2008
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:51pm
If that works for you, fine. It's too long for me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2007
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:53pm

What if that was your only option?

What if you worked an 8-5 job with an hour long commute each way?

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&nbs

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2007
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:54pm
And you never specified what was "too long". The time she is in DC or the time she is away from me?

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&nbs

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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:57pm

Than that's the way you should have approached this post because you have hardly mentioned anything besides your SIL in the subsequent posts.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 4:03pm

the biggest thorn in your side is your own husband's objection to your sah,IMO.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 4:14pm
I agree children are all different.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 4:15pm
Why? Tiring for the kids? Possible impairment of parent/child bond?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 5:50pm
By staggering schedules? Don't most offices allow employees to choose whether they work 7-3, 8-4, 9-5, or 10-6?
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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2007
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 6:38pm

I'm sure they do, but I think where you and I perhaps see things slightly differently, is in that I see the decisions about the amount of othercare that will be needed (and the amount that is desirable), the amount of income the household needs, how that will be achieved and who will work for a paycheck and who will work in the home (if indeed either parent stays home or works PT) as FAMILY decisions that are made by both parents together as a unit, for the benefit of the family as a whole (including but not limited to the children).

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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: jadm08
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 10:07pm

>Why have kids if you can't take care of them? My sil drops her 3 off from 7am to 6 pm. What's the point of having them?<

Ask your sil and your dh. As for your nieces and/or nephews being in dc for 11 hours, again, ask your sil and her dh. The average time a child spends in dc is around 32-35 hours a week. The parents that used the same dc that our son went to staggered their drop off/pick up. The parent that went to work later dropped off and the parent that got home first picked up. Personally, I had no trouble going back to work when Dylan was 9 weeks old. But then he didn't start dc until he was 6 months old. Before then, he was cared for by his sisters and dh.

I work for the following reasons (not in any particular order and the list isn't inclusive): 1) I love my job--not many people do it and I'm very good at it; 2) my working enables dh to work at the career he loves but doesn't pay enough to support the entire family; 3) I'd go nuts if I was home with Dylan 24/7--a litle of him goes a long way. ;)

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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