How do you do it?

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Registered: 03-12-2008
How do you do it?
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 11:19am

To all you ladies that drop your infants off at daycare, how do you do it? I have to go back to work in 45 days, and when I look at my sweet little babys face and think of strangers holding her, I just tear up. I thought i'd be able to stay home, but my husband would rather me work, and I don't want to cause tension in our relationship. Why have kids if you can't take care of them? My sil drops her 3 off from 7am to 6 pm. What's the point of having them?


Any helpful advice?

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Registered: 07-23-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:48pm
LOL :)
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Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: jadm08
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 1:57pm
I say "someone has to take care of me when I'm old!"




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Registered: 07-23-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 2:17pm

Waving hi :)

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Registered: 10-30-2007
In reply to: jadm08
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 9:50am
I tell people that we had kids because we didnt have cable tv....
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Registered: 04-04-2005
In reply to: jadm08
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 2:44pm

I say "someone has to take care of me when I'm old!"


That is why I had kids!

 

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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 4:01pm
I would say that we weren't really well educated in NFP. Or that the co*ndom broke.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 6:26pm

You should have worked this out BEFORE you had kids. If you feel so strongly as to say "why have kids if you can't take care of them" and you feel WOH isnt taking "care of them," then clearly you need to either 1. get a divorce and find a husband who will support you SAH; or 2. talk your Dh into changing his mind or 3. SAH and ignore the "tension" it causes in your relationship. Those are your options.
Personally I would have shored this up before having a baby with someone. Its sort of a core value issue.
Personally I WOH, DH SAH, and we take *very* good care of our children. Notice the "we" when referring to our children.....its not purely the domain of the SAHP to care for kids.


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Registered: 03-21-2001
In reply to: jadm08
Sat, 03-15-2008 - 2:13pm

Boy aren't you the rude one.


People have children because they want children.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Sun, 03-16-2008 - 6:42pm
I totally agree and am starting to feel more strongly about the importance of SAH for me. I was always 100% WOH until I had my daughter. It's not about me anymore and more about what she needs. I just don't think it's good for a baby to be separated from their mother for long periods of time. Whoever a child spends most of their waking hours with will have an enormous impact on her personality, character, etc. Also, daycare providers change constantly because they are underpaid and the work is hard.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: jadm08
Sun, 03-16-2008 - 6:57pm

everyone's different but the way I looked at it was that it WAS still about me-- me AND her -- and me being happy in a job I loved was every bit as important.

plus I loved that her daycare teachers had such an impact on her -- she learned alot from them that I'll always appreciate.

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