How do you leave them??

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Registered: 01-11-2008
How do you leave them??
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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:25pm
I'm already going crazy thinking about taking my son to daycare. He is almost 4 weeks now, I get 8 weeks off since I had a C-sec. I can't imagine leaving him!! I know the daycare knows how to care for children, but I don't want him to think I just abandoned him! I never pictured myself as a SAHM, and I'm not sure if I could handle the lack of activity and adult interaction (besides, it's not really financially possible for us). I'm going to cut down my work hours to 4 days a week, but I still feel bad about having to leave him...

 

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:31pm

I feel for you, but still can't fathom "why" you feel bad. I knew that when I was leaving them in dc that they would have a fun time and enjoy "playing" with other children. Never, not once, did my children ever feel that I "abandoned" them.

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Registered: 03-22-2004
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:36pm

For me, with both kids, it was hard leaving them.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:43pm

first of all be gentle with yourself - at 4 weeks PP your emotions are pretty intense right now.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:45pm
I completely understand. I wouldn't put my baby in dc either. I think baby's are very impressionable now and need mommy.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:46pm

Liza was the only infant in a group daycare of twenty somethign kids ranging from 2-5.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:48pm
I'm sure the support boards will be helpful to you on this point.

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Registered: 07-20-2007
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:51pm

Not necessarily. The ratio of caregivers to children is normally very much conducive to lots of holding and cuddling.


Babies are impressionable, yes. They need Mommy, yes. Do they need just Mommy 24/7? Doubtful. And that "impressionable" stage doesn't end at age 1...they actually become more so as they become more aware! Just in time for school. ;-)

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Karalee
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Registered: 01-28-2008
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:56pm

I am going through the same thing now except that I have been home for 15 months with my son.


FYI...being a SAHM doesn't necessarily limit activity and adult interaction.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 3:22pm
To tell the truth, it was very hard for me to leave my first kid to go back to work, and I was home with him for 8 months, not eight weeks. It got easier as I saw him thrive in other care and learn that Mom might leave for a few hours, but she always comes back. If I were running the world, any mother who wanted it would get a full year home with an infant.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 3:32pm
I found it very difficult to leave

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