How do you leave them??

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Registered: 01-11-2008
How do you leave them??
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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:25pm
I'm already going crazy thinking about taking my son to daycare. He is almost 4 weeks now, I get 8 weeks off since I had a C-sec. I can't imagine leaving him!! I know the daycare knows how to care for children, but I don't want him to think I just abandoned him! I never pictured myself as a SAHM, and I'm not sure if I could handle the lack of activity and adult interaction (besides, it's not really financially possible for us). I'm going to cut down my work hours to 4 days a week, but I still feel bad about having to leave him...

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 3:39pm

This one didnt get any easier for me with child #3. He's now 10 weeks old and I have had a few days at work (partial days) and go back full time week after next. He's with my DH who is a SAHD, but, it still makes me sad. I couldnt leave him with anyone other than DH or my mom. It was more intense with the twins, so I SAH till they were 14 months.


Do know though that its hard for you --- not for your baby.


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Registered: 03-09-2007
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 3:49pm

You would be amazed at how much babies are held in a good dc.

Jess


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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 4:30pm
Congratulations on your new little one!
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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 4:45pm

Cut yourself a little slack. You just had a baby. It's a normal part of the bonding process to not be able to imagine leaving your child. You're not supposed to be able to imagine it. In a month, you will feel differently. It won't be easy, but it sounds as if you have a nice schedule all worked out.


Your child will not think you've abandoned him at all. He has known and recognized you as his mother from birth. (At 4 days, babies recognize the smell of their own mothers' hands!) He knows you belong to him and nothing will change that.

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Registered: 01-11-2008
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 5:07pm
Thanks to everyone for your replies. It's nice to hear that my boy won't forget who I am by the end of the day. I will just miss him. I'll have to start working on my plan to maybe stay home when we have #2 ;-)

 

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 3:57am

Unfortunately, we evolved under conditions where mom staying with baby increased the odds of survivial and, as a result, bred for moms who don't want to leave their babies.

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 7:31am
Well. That was helpful.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 7:34am
Katie's right.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:43am

I left my first son in daycare when he was 3 months old.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:05pm

A dc would never hold my baby as much as I do or

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