How do you leave them??

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How do you leave them??
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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:25pm
I'm already going crazy thinking about taking my son to daycare. He is almost 4 weeks now, I get 8 weeks off since I had a C-sec. I can't imagine leaving him!! I know the daycare knows how to care for children, but I don't want him to think I just abandoned him! I never pictured myself as a SAHM, and I'm not sure if I could handle the lack of activity and adult interaction (besides, it's not really financially possible for us). I'm going to cut down my work hours to 4 days a week, but I still feel bad about having to leave him...

 

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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:09pm

I understand where you are coming from.

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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 2:43pm

I agree.

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:40am
I feel for you. I wouldn't want to leave my baby either. I agree with the women who say that some of it is just "hormonal," but a lot of that is built into us for a purpose. God designed it that way... that we want to nurture, care for, protect, love, do anything for that child; especially when they are a newborn. And that nurturing drive is there whether it is day or night, whether you are at work or home. I know that I could never leave one that little in day care and feel right about it. I wouldn't be able to concentrate on my work, because I would feel like my "work" (ie. taking care of my sons in all shapes and forms) was elsewhere. And I refer to taking care of my sons as work, because it is work... it's a lot of work...but for me, it is also the most rewarding work imaginable, and I feel honored that God placed my 2 boys (and a third on the way) in my care.
Having "piece of mind" regarding the care of my children, is worth all the money in the world to me (and to my husband). I feel so blessed to be able to stay at home. I hope it works out for you to be able to do what gives your heart peace and joy.... whatever that may be. I just wanted to offer another side of the story... I don't mean to offend.
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 4:25pm

I understand how you feel because I felt like that with my first son. I had to go back to work for financial reasons. But, my DH and I had found an awesome childcare center where there were only 6 babies and two older "grandmotherly" ladies caring for the babies. We were happy about the center, but I was sad about leaving him (which truly is just a normal way to feel).


Anyway, as time passed, I saw my son thriving at his "school" (as we called it). The two older ladies became like my "other grandma's" and we became close. There was also a camera in the room so that I could log on and see my son during the day. I also was comforted by seeing and talking with the other moms who had babies in my son's class. It encouraged me to interact with them and to know that I was not alone.

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 4:27pm
What a nice thoughtful post -- nicely said!
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 4:34pm

no offense taken.

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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 3:18pm

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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 3:24pm

I thinkt he way I always looked at it was that I didn't expect Liza's daycare providers to love her 'as much' or "the same" as I do - she's not their baby why would they?

 

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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 3:39pm

it also never occurred to me to worry about her bonding with them. i WANTED her to bond with them... I always told her and still do that the heart can expand indefinitely to hold love for an infinite number of people and the more people she can hold close in her heart the happier her world .


I have to ask this because I think the same way abotu my kids bonding with others....but, are you a jealous person by nature?

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