How do you view "Fatherhood"

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Registered: 03-22-2010
How do you view "Fatherhood"
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 9:08pm
How involved should men be with their children and how involved ARE men (in reality) involved with their children?
Please indicate if you have children and you are speaking from personal experience. I think it would also be interesting to see how each gender views this topic, so please also indicate if you're male or female.

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:13pm
Well I won't agree that children will remember their dad changing a diaper (if dad did so). they might remember it though. Whether they remember it or not, your children (everyone's) will remember their mother and their father being involved and caring for them doing a number of things. they may not remember dad never was a diaper changer, but they will realize as they grow up that dad is more hands of and/or uninvolved with them, if that is the case. That goes for mom too.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:18pm
Yes I agree with you and the other poster. Both parents should be involved in various things with the child and I think they will remember the invovlement Whether it is split up tasks or shared.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:21pm
Pre-teens are neither immobile nor reasoning beings. That may be why I find the stage difficult.
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Registered: 02-24-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:32pm
I have had responses like that from my kids the times when I have started up the grill. But we did get a new grill last summer and I used it quite a it more. It seems easier to use and everything works on it, etc.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:33pm
: )

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 7:45pm

I clearly remember my dad changing my sisters diaper.


so what, what does that mean to you, now, anyway?

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 7:49pm
kids NEED TO SEE dad change a diaper like they NEED TO SEE both parents WOH, too.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 8:15pm
ages 3 and 5 were cute ages i especially remember my two oldests at.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 8:18pm

"so yes they will remember"


You have no way of knowing what your kids will remember as adults.


true.

 

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 8:26pm

My dad did not change his children's diapers either, but he admired his son and son in law who did. He too worked and was kept out of a vital part of his children's childhood due to strict rules of gender roles in raising children in his era. He's in his 80's now, and he is glad that things have changed.

He was a very hands-on and occasionally diaper changing grandfather to my children.

According to him, the dirty work did matter as the gender roles were much too confining in his parenting era. I love my dad and I love that he was self-aware enough to know that things changed, and in his opinion, changed for the better.

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