How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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I was going to say that it's not that I think the profession of a doctor is above all. If my dd came to me and said that she wants to be a neurosurgeon I would ask her why not something else. I am not crazy about it as my dd's job.
By opting out of the engineering field (a male dominated field) you are essentially doing the same thing that you accuse SAHM's w/ careers before children of doing. You are opting out of a field that needs more woman. You are no longer keeping the door open for those other woman not to mention all but ensuring their salaries plummet. The feild needs more women and you are leaving.
Your argument is when a women (no matter how much she offered in her career pre-children) opts out of the work force to SAH, she does all women in the work force a diservice (i.e. not holding the door open like you have)regardless if they plan to consult or come back.
Well, if you are opting out the engineering field to take a teaching job (a traditional women's job) then you are doing a diservice at that point and time to all future women engineers. You are closing the door on them and abandoning them.
I am just following your line of reasoning.
I am at home all day long, naturally I get more time in with them. He is working all day, naturally he gets less time in with them. We just don't worry about it like other families might.
maybe you should stick to voicing opinions on subjects you know something about; it's clear your ignorance of how the military actually works hinders your ability to render an intelligent opinion on it and the suitability of it as a career officer, let alone as an enlisted person.
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