How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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How many Fortune 500 CEOs have committed wrong? I'm thinking WorldCom, Tyco, Enron. There are many more, I know.
How many stories have we read about officers and officer bound men sexually abusing and raping fellow women and cadets? Does Tailhook ring a bell?
Personally, I believe it is more important to teach my son values and morals. To teach him to respect his fellow person and himself. To teach him right from wrong. If, in the process, he decides he wants to an artist, a musician, an economist or even a truck driver, my DH and I will to see to it he gets the best preparation we can afford.
But until then, I will do my best to raise a fine young man who values people for who they are, not what they are.
outside_the_box_mom
What *I* don't understand is why you'd take it a step further and suggest an entirely different career.
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But you're allowed to call that same person an engineer.
Hollie
I don't think this comment (the one you say is wrong) is very meaningful but I concede it is her observation of her experience in her community. Whether or not it translates elsewhere (or anywhere) is another matter.
Or were you talking about her previous statements from other posts?
Would you find it insulting for a police officer to say he has a career in law inforcement?
Career is not defined by number of years one went to college. There are MANY different types of careers. Resort, insurance, lawyer, medical, management, criminal....
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