How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:16pm
yeah .. but that doesn't mean they deserve my respect.

Look at George, or Bill ... they may have more authority than anyone else .. but i guarantee they're not the most respected ...

Hollie

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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:17pm
Good point.
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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:18pm
<> You have to ask? after all this debate?
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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:22pm
Because nurses do a TOTALLY different job than doctors. Nurses are companions, caretakers, etc, in addition to providing medical care. A nurse doesn't just do what a doctor does but to a less degree .. its a totally different profession. Nursing isn't a lower rung on the same ladder as a doctor .. .its a whole different ladder.

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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:23pm
Then you don't know much about what doctors and nurses do. Nurses do a whole lot more personal interaction with patients. There is a lot one can get from nursing that you can't get from doctoring.
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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:25pm
Ahhh, here we go ... <>

It is all about the money for you, isn't it?

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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:26pm
But you didn't WANT to manage a shoe store!
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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:29pm
Here we go again .. the world according to PJM.
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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:30pm
At a younger age, they just need to LEARN. And I've known many a kid who got straight As and didn't learn a thing. And many kids that got Bs and learned more than anyone.

Hollie

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Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:32pm
Let me tell you a story ..

My junior year of high school .. I received the "Best Algebra III/Trigonometry" student award. I had the 5-6th highest grade in the class. 2 of the people above me had a 99% average. I had about an 87% (A B! OMG! how dare I?, lol). I was so shocked. I later asked the teacher why I got the award and not the two with the really high averages. Her answer? "Because you've learned more than they have. You've had to work harder. You've grown more. And that deserves to be rewarded as much as the grade."

But, I wasn't the "best" ... shame on me ...

Hollie

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