How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Look at George, or Bill ... they may have more authority than anyone else .. but i guarantee they're not the most respected ...
Hollie
It is all about the money for you, isn't it?
Hollie
My junior year of high school .. I received the "Best Algebra III/Trigonometry" student award. I had the 5-6th highest grade in the class. 2 of the people above me had a 99% average. I had about an 87% (A B! OMG! how dare I?, lol). I was so shocked. I later asked the teacher why I got the award and not the two with the really high averages. Her answer? "Because you've learned more than they have. You've had to work harder. You've grown more. And that deserves to be rewarded as much as the grade."
But, I wasn't the "best" ... shame on me ...
Hollie
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