How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Edited 8/27/2003 11:31:17 PM ET by silverunity
This is a common mistake in logic. A WOHM has an SUV, so she must work to pay for the SUV. But it's more likely she works to help pay basic expenses, yet makes enough to cover those expenses and have enough left over to afford an SUV.
I have to work. Because I work, we can afford some niceties that we wouldn't have if I SAH. But if I didn't work at all, we wouldn't even have the basics, much less the extras.
No one said you made that statement. What was said was that you bought into the stereotype expressed in that statement.
I never said you were threatened by anything at all. You sure do have a knack for debating things no one ever said. No wonder you think other people's posts don't make sense.
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