How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:11pm
I did not edit out the post for eileen for you or whatever it is you think I will send my frank and truthful opinion on ...WOULD you please stop thinking for me.
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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:11pm
She's what I'm the parent of. I couldn't participate in this debate without her.
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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:14pm
I have to admit, i truly would hate to spew from the mouth.




Edited 8/27/2003 11:31:17 PM ET by silverunity

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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:16pm
Not all WOHM have SUV's. And many SAHM have SUV's.

This is a common mistake in logic. A WOHM has an SUV, so she must work to pay for the SUV. But it's more likely she works to help pay basic expenses, yet makes enough to cover those expenses and have enough left over to afford an SUV.

I have to work. Because I work, we can afford some niceties that we wouldn't have if I SAH. But if I didn't work at all, we wouldn't even have the basics, much less the extras.

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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:16pm
God help me if I start thinking for you. Somebody just slit my throat now!
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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:18pm
It was a quote that you said was a valid point.

No one said you made that statement. What was said was that you bought into the stereotype expressed in that statement.

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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:19pm
So you need to discuss her with me? you ned to tell me she is a better student than i am? the internet is just that CYBER SPACE, iam here to discuss woh/sah and if you have a probelm with it than ... find someone else to wollow in your freakin PITY!

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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:21pm
I must have missed the post where you were told you were a stereotype. All I saw was the post where eileen said you were shopping at Stereotypes R Us. You know, the comment that you've been taking exception with all this time.

I never said you were threatened by anything at all. You sure do have a knack for debating things no one ever said. No wonder you think other people's posts don't make sense.

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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:22pm
i dont care what a troll is i have better things to do. but dont b confused...Iam fully aware of what a miserable ugly pathtic troll is.
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Wed, 08-27-2003 - 11:26pm
Eileen did tell me i shop at sterotypesrus...what would that mean to you?

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