How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:22am
No, I'm genuinely confused, and asking you for clarification.

When you say "I'm not the one who dragged her weakness into it", who the "her" to which you refer? Do you mean savcal's daughter? Savcal didn't mention any weaknesses of her daughter's. Did you mean me? I haven't brought up any of my own weaknesses.

The only weakness pointed out was yours. And I didn't bring it up, so your comment about "That someone must be you... " doesn't make sense.

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:24am
That was the point. . .it IS an extreme. . .as is the stereotype of "working for the SUV". . .

Thought you were going to bed. . .how many times have you said 'goodnight'?

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:25am
Your posts indicate otherwise.

I was willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. But if you want to insist that your inability to follow a thread isn't the result of unfamiliarity with this format, so be it.

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:28am
You asked for the world's definition of valid. I supplied it for you.

Really, PLEASE learn to use outline view, or the "in response to" link provided in the posts.

BTW, didn't you already make your grand exit?

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:29am
ill do my best...no one listens though

Hollie has pointed out my error on more than one ocassion she than tell's me her daughter who is 7 can do whatever it is she can do better than i can....YEAH! that is GREAT!.

To point out error only Proves ones weakness and to compare your y yr old childs skills for pleasure to someone whom you think is trolling(as hollie blames me) is disqusting. My children stay off the boards at all times unless we are talking school schedule ect...never in a dark light, it will only come back to you in three folds~

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:30am
Ahhhhhh the oh, so predictable "get a life" routine. It's funny that you say that as your posts out number mine dramatically. It's usually the last resort post after the big insult post has been hurled. And since you already did that to eileen you were down to the wire. So typical.



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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:31am
I'm staying away from the punch.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:32am
I use the outline view faithfully what you are posting makes no sense aqhh sound familiar? i said good nite to someone that i have no intentions to chat with anylonger was that a grand exit for you? hummm.....




Edited 8/28/2003 12:35:14 AM ET by silverunity

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:34am
Like I said....Speaks Volumes............

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:36am
But you have repeatedly pointed out other people's errors. So your words are hollow.

We are listening to you. But as has been pointed out by more than one poster, your message is often difficult to decipher. You could take responsibilty for that, but instead you have claimed that you don't care. Yet you continue to complain when others don't understand what you are trying to say.

If you don't care that your posts aren't clear, then it isn't logical for you to continue complaining that no one understands your posts.

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