How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:37am
~ goodnite....
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:40am
Then allow me to clarify.

You consistently ask people what remarks they are referencing, even when those remarks are in full view in the title of the previous post. You respond to your own posts. Your remarks often have little to do with the post to which you are responding. The result gives the impression that you are having difficulty following the flow of the thread.

Hope that clears it up for you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:48am
Exactly what didn't make sense? The *fact that she supplied* the definition of valid as YOU requested? or the *definition* of valid.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:49am
I have never pointed out peoples error my first post to this board was misread and misrepreented by eileen my second post the same by others who have way to much time on their hands imo. now why would i take responsiblity of something that is not clear....there is a group here( which i consider troubled). to repeat myself continually and know fact someone gets what i say they just cant admit it. < weak>

My post's are clear enough if they were not you and all the other 3 ducks would not be waddeling.

So would you like to debate the sah/woh issue or would you all like to debate your personal issue with me...


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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 1:03am
Oh i see....so you think i claim working for a suv is what all WOHMOM do could you prove this?

goodnite~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 1:06am
Good idea. You've said some pretty rotten stuff to Eileen that your going to regret in the morning. And, if you don't regret it, even more of a reason for you to say goodnight.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 1:08am
Believe as you may by all means please carry on...ill be around later to further the discussion. i dont need the benifit of the doubt as some of you seem to rely on in these parts of ivillage.

sweet dreams all`

unity^

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 1:10am
why would i have regrets, i think a few of of you here spew abd id would not to be you...eileen has not once represented my words for what they mean only what she want's them to mean shell argue it but she can not prove it...i hate it its false and misrepresentaiton and id never want to be like that...Why would i regret that?...am i suppose to regret this? Most of you here can not back up anything you say about me. You simply talk in complete circles,point out error and misrepresent others words to make your point. Oh and call people tolls if they disagree with you enemsly.








Edited 8/28/2003 10:45:03 AM ET by silverunity

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 1:12am
or further the confusion as the case may be.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 1:22am
LOL! right!

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