How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 7:52am
Maybe you should change your nick to "glasshouse".
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 7:54am
I would love to debate the sah/woh issue. I'd love to debate it with you, if you would clearly articulate what you want to say, and take the time to clarify when people are "misinterpreting" what you say instead of attacking them for not understanding you.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 7:56am
But I like to feed them. It's almost as much fun as poking them, but we're not allowed any poking here in the Soup.

I can't help it - it just amuses me so seeing how self-congratulatory they get, thinking we are playing into their hands while not realizing they're playing into ours.

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:01am
So if you believe a statement is well founded, and carries force, weight, and logic, and claim that it's a GREAT point, you still want to claim that you aren't supporting that statement?

As for standing by what you say, if that were true you wouldn't have edited it away. You can't stand behind something you've done your best to shove under the carpet.

And if you had simply clarified your remarks, none of this hairsplitting would have taken place. But at least you're consistent with blaming others.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:10am
Excuse me I have never attacked anyone for misunderstanding me and if you have such a problem with my articulation that STOP responding to me. i have clarifyed repeatedley however noone has yet had the ability to quote my opinion correctly just what they think i said as in what they wanted me to say.

You have not debated sah/woh issues with me i have tried with you but you ignore those psots and continue to tell who iam what i think and what i do. You all must be pretty smittned with me...

lol

their is a ignore feature and that edit button is their for use im not hiding anything why would I ? i said it you saw it i removed b/c i i thought that be best now tell me what iam i thinking now who amd i and where do i live?

It seems to me b/c i disagree with the "group" here you resort to call me a troll. I have been told via e-mail that is common behavior for a few of you here so please carry on i am fully capable of ignoring you and your spew.


Edited 8/28/2003 8:28:14 AM ET by silverunity

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:11am
Yep .. we not only feed them .. we bait them too.

Bad soupers.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:12am
So you think you know where i live huh? You should change yours to "clueless"

Yes, im talking to you ....


Edited 8/28/2003 9:18:32 AM ET by silverunity

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:15am
Ding, Ding, Ding...and we have a winner folks:

"Many wanted it themselves."

Isn't that what we are discussing? The fact that their parents did not push them into their career choice...that they DID want it themselves--

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:16am
Yep that was you... lol and your great points that are valid and now supported with fact.

Iam a sterotype because I think you points are vlaid. i quess the rules of this board for some of the ladies is...if you post something that means you agree with it even if you dont state you do...i quess you can not discuss things here without being on one side or the other.

No big deal really.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:19am
Trolls are playing into your hands? that i higly doubt...if that is a fact than you must be one.

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