How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Glad to know you support that....because elsewhere in this thread you have stated that you supported the idea that SOME WOH, work only to buy "things" then you have also supported that ALL WOH, work only to buy "things.
Now you are supporting the idea that this particular SAH is an idiot for thinking the way she does. (btw--not the poster..the person the poster was speakin of as the idiot).
What exactly, for my own clarification purposes are you supporting. Maybe you said it elsewhere, but all this mudslinging is getting my puter awfully mucky and I can't seem to be able to read all the words properly.
Of course, i've asked the question -- Is it okay for a WOHD with a SAH family to work "FOR" things (you know, like WOHMs are often accused of doing)? But no one seems to think that's much of a problem.
I'll let you know the next time i drive by my neighbor's new Lexus SUV -- they're the SAH family....while i'm cruising by in my 1996 (bought used) Honda Accord with 120,000 miles.
But really, don't give the "war" (LOL!) another thought. It happens often around here. Some just never "get it".
eileen
Like they say it only proves weakness.
My position on this is wohp/sahp/wahp and dcp all work for different reasons.
i quess that make me a sterotype a troll and a 13 y old who cant type.
i thankyou, you are the only one who has responded to me in a respectful adult manner.
Edited 8/28/2003 9:59:39 AM ET by silverunity
Woops, lets try that again..
a jacka$$ with a saddle....
1.WOHP are not responsilbe for their childs physicall care while they are working they pay a provider for their responsibility. A sahm does not.
2. WOHP/WAHM/SAHM all have different reason for working in the home or out.
Is it your job to tell me how to post on this board? im sorry but iam not looking for your approval. I have seen you debate nothing but your personal opinion of me and my claim of your mirepresentaion of my words PLUS yelling at me for saying things i have NEVER said. Who is "we" anyway? I am talking to directly to YOU.
To each his ownnn
your a techer... hummmm
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