How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:36am
You have tried to think for me without success. You cant think for me so there is no reson to slit your throat~

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:39am
No, she meant size. And to save myself 2 posts, I didnt take her comments personally, but I do find her condescending and judgemental attitude irritating overall. This post is just one of many that displays it.

dj

Dj

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:41am
Or really the group has not proven maturity, the group is mean spirited scoathing and horrible. what i said to elieen is exactly how i feel about the way she has represented herself to me in this debate...

I would discrible that post to eileen as raw truth of my opinion of her and her perosnl opinion of me.

So with out further alram...you now know my personal view of peole who act as such.

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:42am
Actually I havent posted to you at all, in fact I avoided this entire subthread as soon as I read a couple of your posts. Why would I need to prove my personal opinions when there is no doubt in anyone's mind that you are a troll?

And I am pretty sure you are the same person who was posting to PI awhile back. Can you DISPROVE it?

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:43am
Yes it does speak volumes of how i view people who act as the group.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:46am
LOL Well ookthen Iknwo grammar can be difficultbut then again hey it is only a message board and acutally exchanging - ideas is the whole points who carese aboutsomethign assilly as grammar if you cant udnerstandwhat I meeen than that is your problem you silly WOHM whois spongingoff oall us poor SHAM whove to pickup your slack BUt thatis justme and its so funnnnnyto watch you all p9oint out my errors why don't you just look in the mirror. But you make some valid points. Excuseme while I spned all day typinginto the board it;s like my fingers are possessed and I type so quickly I dont evenhave tim to think it just floows and flows and flows.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:06am
Edited and removed to avoid feeding. I think I will just call the mental hospital instead.


Edited 8/28/2003 1:07:52 PM ET by charlesmama
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:17am
So true. My kids were using cups long before 3, why on earth would I want them to still nurse at that age? We do have the benefits not available to prehistoric man or isolated bush tribes.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:17am
If only that was the problem.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:19am
Good luck!!!! Please let us (me) know what happens with that. And if you are reading this - GO AWAY, do some work, call an agent! ;-)

SUS

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