How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:43am
Er, my youngest doesn't and hasn't (ever) slept in a crib, we've never (and won't) let him CIO, we don't do sleep schedules or nap schedules. It has nothing to do with manipulation. You're doing the exact same thing momofhk is.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:43am
Your right i need to chill out, i have to get going anyway.

first i have to tell you my side.. i have explained myself no one acknowledges that, they only focus on my style my mistakes my spelling mistakes my identity to them how i think... the perfect example my first post to the board where eileen misrepresented my words and you posted it to her also "she said child care" eileen did not acknowldege that after i clarifyed she told me where i shop.

the whole thing was cryptic and i became a bit mesmerized how many people behave. Now I admit Iam also at fault I have slung some mud and told someone exactly how i view them on a personal level, i probably should have kept it to myself. bad me. I quess I see what I dont want to be.

Who know who care...it is just a board.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:44am
No. You said my posts made no sense. I said those who have a command of the English languange have no trouble making sense of them.

Since YOU are the ONLY one complaining that they make no sense, the problem must be you.

Everyone else has no problem understanding my posts.



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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:45am
Well, in that case, my 11 and 7 year old would still be nursing, because believe me, they would never say or do anything along those lines.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:45am
What WAS the original topic? roflmao
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:47am
That exact same thought just occurred to me, only I was thinking somewhat younger..
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:48am
I think you would be hard pressed to find one person on this entire board who has understood one sentence you have written.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:49am
Was it not in referance to COL? I live in a city with a pretty low COL and it's far from hicktown. It was an ignorant comment.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:49am
"What are you talking about your language grammer and typos make no sense."

Perhaps we can be of some help, try;

"What are you talking about? Your language, grammAr and typos make no sense.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:53am
Well if that be tru by you( i dont believe it anyway) than your response to eileen was not a truthful comment and you did not understand exactly what i said you just pretended to.


how silly



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