How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Maybe I should have married someone 20 years older...
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Part of success is to have a job that pays me enough so that I can do and be things that will make me happy with the rest of my life.
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I will say one thing, though. I've noticed us "stick people" are nicer to each other in general than suburbanites. We know each other. We know each other's kids. We keep each other's kids out of trouble. We support each other. When I had my second daughter I didn't have to worry about cooking for about a month from my neighbors bringing me and my oldes plates of homemade food. In turn, my neighbors know that they need not worry if they need a ride somewhere and I'm able to take them we can go (I am one of the few who have a reliable vehicle). So I'd actually "prefer" to live in the sticks.
I wouldn't be caught dead in the burbs if all the people in the burbs exhibit your attitude. I'd never say I wouldn't be "caught dead" doing anything because life is such that just when you say that you get put in that exact situation.
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That's how I'd rephrase my post.
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But hey, like I said, it's your perogative.
Sue
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