How does this relate to the debate?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:07pm
First off, you have already offered me your corrective gripe and i thanked you, why do you feel compelled to repeat it in a above post offering your help? I dont need your help if i do a i will certainley ask. I dont find your problem with my typo errors to be a major deal or issue for me.

Now to be misunderstood is simply being misjudged to be improperly interpeted. I really dont have any major worry if you or anyone here misunderstand's me...that is the essence of intelleget life, really.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:08pm
I don't know. Ask my dad why he pays my brother's premiums. Probably because dad would feel honor bound to society to pick up my brother's six digit hospital bills otherwise. I just don't get why some people have master's degrees, but aren't willing to meet even a basic financial obligation such as health insurance (but I digress into a personal situation).

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:09pm
Ah, yet more evidence you are having difficulty with this format.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:09pm
The inner city is a whole 'nother ball game than the sticks.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:13pm
i dont think I would call my opinion "weak" perhaps highly unncessary and maybe it is pathetic to you i on the other hand find the "group" "pathetic".

I stand corrected...I should have never posted my honest personal opinion.

Perhaps you should try that too....

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Registered: 11-20-2001
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:14pm
I have a lot invested in the children I enroll ... if they aren't happy, their parents aren't happy, and by their word of mouth my business goes south. As for being a substitute, whatever.

Linda

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:18pm
DJ, I don't think your life is "wrong." It's none of my business. But don't infer that I'm criticizing everyone who doesn't do it my way, including you, when I post a strong opinion.

I have enough going on in my own life without trying to run anyone else's.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:20pm
<< i am fully capable of ignoring you and your spew. >>

Yes, we can see that.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:22pm
That's interesting, since your first attack against me was claiming that by pointing out trollish behavior, I was exhibiting it.

You sure dropped the "unity" act pretty quickly when challenged.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:24pm
I don't have a problem with the way you navigate the board. I have said that your posts indicate YOU have a problem with navigating the board.

Thanks for yet another stellar example of my points regarding your posts.

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