How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Not debating here, just making an observation.
Linda
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
You and I actually agree on something!
take care~
Funny how you exhibit the exact behavior you condem in others. Almost like a child repeating everything someone says.
Linda
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
Of course, you didn't only say her points were valid, you said they were GREAT. Care to explain how that comment indicates you disagreed with them?
But if they're always given everything they want, and are accustomed to the appearance that money just flows and flows, they might be income less at 35.
Just one more reason I want my kids to see that I don't have it all.
Hollie
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