How does this relate to the debate?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:38pm
Hmmm, when I'm 40 (not so long now) I will "have some money in the bank for current and retirement needs and to be able to pay college tuition for your kids without worrying".

And gee, I'm not in a "career" by your standards, nor a "professional." How did I ever manage?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:39pm
by the way .. glad to see you back today ... we needed to get back to debating with you instead of silverunity ... at least you debate intelligently, even if we dont agree.


Edited 8/28/2003 3:15:41 PM ET by savcal
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:40pm
huh?
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:42pm
Yeah ya did...im not condeming that would be the you lady who think she know where i live...lol what a riot. There is no need for me to exlapin my postion agian i have clarifyed...I think the women makes valid staments, she is right many woh work for the suv's that is their choice.

So what next?

oh and i alwasy stand up to my name im gald i could help...;-)

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:46pm
And you condem me for acting like a child...ah now i see where this double standard comes from.

thanks for clarifying that for me.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:50pm
that was no attack that was a reminder if you take it personal that is not my problem REPORT IT...Which is it TM? you just told some one i stand to my name. LOL! You have no idea what my sig means anyway, you just as usual assume you do.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:51pm
Aren't mules those cute little backless shoes?
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:55pm
Okie-dokie, we know a lost cause when we see one.

NEXT!

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:02pm
Oh sure right...

-- we needed to get back to debating with instead of silverunity--

As if that makes sense... or even remotley show a slight sign of intellect..



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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:02pm
Well, lets ask her, pnj, do you mean hicktown by virtue of size, or character? Like I said, I live in a small town, but it's very cosmopolitan and sophisticated in nature. In fact, I think if you go to the towns homepage, the motto is something like "Weston, where rural meets sophistication", and it's really quite true. No hicks in this here neck of the woods.

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