How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:03pm
I guess I had an odd family (well, I *knew* that, lol) because I didn't get any of that. I guess because of their makeup; my dad was a medical technology (chemistry 5-yr major) and my mom is an artist.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:06pm
Damn! I have to say that was the first time I have LOL! Excellent Parody, you have a brilliant future in late night comedy television.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:08pm
Do you actually believe i care about YOUR personal opinion about me with what you think you know about me...lol "we" lol could you at least stand alone in your dribbles. Im curious would you like me to tell you how i view you personally? or wait better yet ill keep it to myslef you can just keep guessing your important b/c you say you are.

NEXT~lol

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:12pm
No I'm not, I never said my way was the best way, or even the right way.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:15pm
Now that I can agree with!
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:19pm
Well I've seen it. A 3 year old told his mom he was thirsty, unbuttoned her blouse and grabbed her breast and latched on. I found it a tad uncomfortable.

I see no good reason for a child that age to be nursing. It certainly is no benefit to the child, maybe the mom gets off on it, thinks it's oh so earth mothery. That or she likes the shock value. Beats me.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:22pm
Yes I'm aware of that. I'm not here to brag about how underdeveloped my neighborhood is. But I do know that I hate, hate HATE, the statement "I wouldn't be caught dead..." Even if you really wouldn't that's a snobby thing to say, especially considering you don't know if parts of your audience lives in that situation and can't do any better.

Yes I live in the sticks. I am not proud of that. No, I don't like that I can see open air drug dealing in my neighborhood. No, I don't like that my children no longer jump to the sound of gunshots, no I don't like that there is trash in the streets and that a lot of people don't take care of their homes and I especially hate that Trading Spaces will never EVER come to my neighborhood (a little humor to lighten the mood...) however I do like the people. We're good, hardworking people for the most part. Yes, there's a criminal element here but for the most part that can be avoided if you so desire. I like the fact that I am close to my neighbors and they are close to me in a way I never experienced in the suburbs (and I lived in the suburbs most of my childhood). I like the fact that we seem to be "in it together" for the most part. All of us parents look out for each other. I like that dynamic. I wish I could have that dynamic in a nicer setting, but I just haven't seen it happen yet. I still hold out hope, though.

Call me a dreamer...

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:35pm
We get it, you don't want to make any effort to be understood or to improve your communication skills, nor do you care. Just don't keep complaining when no one can understand a word you type.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:41pm
Who would've guessed? Stranger things have happened....
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 3:48pm
Ow. That post could actually bring on a migraine.

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