How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 4:15pm
sure right, lol i have hit a nerve now havent i ;-) your loss but i know you know exactly what Im saying. Im betting 12 there is no way puberty has been hit and im betting you stommped your feet while you read my post that you understood completley.

I know i dont have to spell that out to you~


Edited 8/28/2003 4:20:08 PM ET by silverunity

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 4:21pm
No, I'm not. She is a lovely woman, full of power and wisdom. And beauty. That's inside beauty, which emanates from her like a heavenly light, not physical beauty by which society judges women. Listening to her read her poetry . . . well, my poor words can't do justice to the experience.

outside_the_box_mom

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 4:31pm
You tell me.. oh right you dont get it...okie dokie;-)
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 4:52pm
I don't think people learn lessons by being rescued. If my child truly was starving and had no place to live, but it was no fault of their own (say, a natural disaster, or a spouse died or something to that effect) I would take them in. But if they had nowhere ot live and nothint to eat because of drugs, laziness, or complete idiocy then they would have to learn their lesson the hard way. All they would learn by me bailing them out is that they don't have to depend on themselves.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 4:55pm
Unity, I understand your every word. So does everyone else, that is obvious.

The real problem here is the "group"!!! we know that.


Consider the source, these women who call they themsleves "mothers"

You got moxie, girl!!!!

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 4:57pm
(shrug) I wouldn't pay either one. I figure if you make your own bed, sleep in it. But that's just me.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 5:04pm
Wow. A Geo Metro.. braver soul than I.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 5:08pm
"letting your kids manipulate you (oh, you call that not letting them CIO and not stidking to a schedule, same thing),"

Call it what you want. Cosleeping and not sleep scheduling isn't about letting kids manipulate parents.

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 5:14pm
i know. Great minds think alike.



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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 5:15pm
I'd rather have a dictionary and spell check than "moxie." NT

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