How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Other benefits - toddlers frequently go through food strikes and picky eating phases. It's common. A nursing toddler is still getting what he/she needs, regardless.
It helps when they're sick and can't keep anything down or tolerate solids. They're still getting what they need.
Good for their teeth (and better for their teeth than cow milk out of a sippy or bottle)
The list continues. All the other stuff that's true when they're tiny is true when they're older.
Did you find breastfeeding the least bit sexual? I doubt you did - why would you think that it's sexual for anyone else? I guarantee you there's nothing remotely sexual about nursing an older child. My son's being allowed to wean at his own pace, and he's doing just fine at it. An older child doesn't nurse the way an infant does. They don't nurse as often and usually not as long. He finds it comforting and I find it comforting that he's getting what he needs.
Why would adjusting a feeding method to make the child and/or mother more comfortable - for whatever reason - be unnatural?
Isn't refusing to give a child breastmilk in a cup or bottle throwing the baby out with the bathwater?
SUS
But why should I go to the trouble of pumping to stick it in a cup or bottle when I have perfectly good set of breasts and everyone's happy?
I'm sure that that isn't the reason you don't want your kids on a schedule, I'm sure you believe that it's wrong to coax kids into a regular sleeping and napping schedule, and that letting them sleep where and when they want is a better option for some reason, but the bottom line is, they're calling the shots, and you're along for the ride.
Is that a good thing? Not for me, but if that's the way you like it, be my guest.
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