How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 6:53pm
My breasts flowed more constantly with dd than any bottle ... lol
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 6:54pm
But just because it wouldn't occur to *you* to say it, doesn't mean it wouldn't occur to Eileen (who was the one who stated it in the first place)or anyone else. And certainly doesn't mean that it was an incorrect observation.

If SU thought the OP's points were valid, she was apparently shopping at the same "Stereotype" store

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 6:55pm
No, their stench is sufficient deterrent to their taste.

One doesn't have to taste sewage to know it wouldn't impress.

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 6:55pm
i did, but not forever. i did encourage them to dine independently before they started nursery school. "LOL"
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 6:56pm
as my pediatrician says, "even dogs have babies".
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 6:59pm
Sl-urp. Sl-urp. Sl-urp.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 7:01pm
ROFLMAO!!!!!!!! you are too much. He!!, we're all gonna die anyway, right? LOL. even those who were breastfed.

sauteed pesticides, anyone??? LOL

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 7:01pm
If you shop at a car dealership does that mean you ARE a car or only that you shopped for one? If you shop at a clothing store, does that make you clothing? If you shop at a shoe store, does that make you a shoe? If you shop at the grocery store, are you, therefore, groceries?

No.

So why would you claim that saying you shop at StereotypesRUs makes you a stereotype?

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 7:06pm
i think its the mother who wont give it up, not the child.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 7:17pm
roflmaobagpmp

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