How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:00pm
I *want* to say it was the same girl on the PI board that was attempting to hone her writing skills (if I remember correctly, she was trying to pass as a mother...yet failed miserably)...BUT, unless she took another posters advice and started using a dictionary...it isn't her. Her spelling wasn't intentional...it was plain atrocious.

Of course, that would make me partly wrong, because I think that girl was 13 or something.

However, if you look through her posts and ignore some of the spew, you will notice that she can spell perfectly fine. It seems like someone is taking an awful lot of effort to make the spelling mistakes on purpose.

And, it reminds of another poster on one of the boards as well. But I can't remember where..the whole posting style is very similar and since we are all on multiple boards, it could be from anywhere. Almost like that borg who kept it up on either HT or MD, but kept using different screen names.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:01pm
ahh there you go agian...telling me where i shop, LOL...

btw so i dont have to repeat myself, no one has disagreed with my positions of the debate TOPIC, just misrepresented my words to make their point, or to debate who Iam to you. It is histaricle but i admit we are somewhat creeped out at how much time I take up in your thoughts. Perhaps in time that wont be a issue anylonger. I will pass my concerns on...



unity^

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:07pm
ROFL! You thought I meant "personally" know you!!!!!! Nope, sorry to disappoint *you.* I wasn't speaking as in "real life." I meant the boards and past user name(s).

Sorry to disappoint you...

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:11pm
I know what the word "unity" means. I have no idea what it means to YOU, nor have I claimed to.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:14pm
Couldn't tell ya...hicksville ain't got no shoe store. But we sure do got one o' dem nice n' tidy outhouses if ya wish ter ever try one.

Hear they be good fer whats ever ailing yer tummy.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:15pm
um nooooo, your stellar example has once agian been defeated and i quote tou.

--Or if you had a basic understanding of how to navigate the boards you would have understood.-- Like i said you SEEM to have a problem with the way i navigate the board.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:17pm
I never said you did and you right you dont but you did say I have stood up to my name.
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:18pm
How much differently could you read this - I personally wouldn't bother pumping and giving breastmilk to the kid in a cup when it's so much easier to deliver it the way God/nature intended

Oops maybe she meant it is so much easier and more natural for HER or HER child to take breastmilk from a breast. Maybe it is so much more natural for HER and/or HER child to do this.

I personally don't know why anyone would care how I deliver nourishment to my child. More specifically I don't know why anyone would presume to make claims to some kind of natural superiority without knowing the nature of the child/relationship. Whooppee for you, your breasts flowed freely - well I nursed 24/7, ate oatmeal, drank the tea, pumped, nursed, pumped some more, nursed some more, took vitamins, relaxed, played soft music, changed positions, consulted a nurse and the bottle flowed more freely than my breasts ever did. Thankfully there was a period that I was on a roll and was able to freeze a fair amount and gave that to my child in a cup/bottle. That was what was natural for us, but by the insta-assumptions made by some here, that certainly wouldn't be the thought process if you encountered us in public (although I should embrace their every parenting choice because it is the natural one.)

Also, I didn't ask about the difference between cow's milk and breastmilk, I am aware. I was asking about the health/ortho issues regarding sucking things (no delicate way to put that- sorry). Why is it so important to wean from a x,y or z, but an any-time accessible breast is okay?

SUS

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:24pm
Your correct, i stand corrected, I honestly though you were telling me i was talking to myself when i was talking to you, my mistake bad me. btw, TM gia is not a imaginary friend i dont have multiple personality syndrome. I have used the same name on ivllage for years i just dont hang out on the site as much as i use to.

unity^


Edited 8/28/2003 8:27:24 PM ET by silverunity

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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:33pm
Yeah, if only I could put my pinkie on it, I would just say it...I am so not shy!

Have you noticed how this poster will joke around with some and go after others?

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