How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Why do YOU get to make suggestions based on a relationship that you know nothing and assign motivations and others don't? Why is "your" way (not YOU specifically) *always* above censure as the right and natural thing to do and others are somehow not as in tune with their baby (as in I couldn't tell a nursing strike from a desire to wean), etc..
SUS
FTR - 10 months is not to early to introduce a cup by common standards.
SUS
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DD weaned herself at 9 mo. She had never had a bottle, so she couldn't be preferring it. She had only had a cup on rare occasions, she I doublt she was preferring it. She didn't start solids til 6 months. And it wasn't a nursing strike.
But, I guess I should have shoved my nipple in her mouth whether she wanted it or not.
BTW, how is your son feeling today? Are you back to work? Take care!
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