How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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I think you and your "internet friends" need to do some remedial math as well as english.
BTW, you're damn right I got my children to adapt to my schedule and guess what, I feel absolutely ZERO guilt for doing so. I wasn't going to be run ragged by my children. Don't be too upset, I have great kids whom I love and who love me very much.
Edited 8/29/2003 11:56:47 AM ET by islimshady
I don't/didn't let my kids CIO. But I didn't run and carry them back to my bed at the slightest whimper.
I think the key is finding a balance between the two extremes. IMO, the extreme at the far end of the CIO road is just as bad as the extreme at the far end of the give-in-every-time road.
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