How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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But I think the borg theory is a pretty good one too. But the borg was nastier and had all those conspiracy theories, like the regular posters were in some kind of coven. Maybe this is the borg's less sophisticated little sister who is a college freshman...?
Or maybe Max Chandler has come back to piss us all off. (But I don't think she could purposely spell something wrong, could she?)
What I said was, parents who cater to their child's every whim (which IMO, is letting the kids wake them up every night when they are past infancy) and letting them nap, etc, when they feel like it, would most likely be the type of parent who thinks that disciplining or even denying their children would be "mean". And they'd end up with a fairly spoiled child to boot.
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