How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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YOU should know better. Tell you what, you do it your way and let you and your children keep waking up every night. That's definitely the smart way to parent. Meanwhile I taught my children that nighttime was for sleeping, and they (and I) have had restful, uninterrupted nights of sleep ever since.
Edited 8/29/2003 4:22:17 PM ET by islimshady
Boy are you disillusioned.
It's ALL called PARENTING and it's ALL part of the same long road. I have no need to count each and every single hour over the last 12 years for all 3 kids ....We have had, do have and will always have PLENTY of time for PARENTING, growing up, living together, doing things together, doing things individually (i mean with each child). So sorry if for some reason that seems to offend.
This will STILL have to suffice.
eileen
I truly wish that i could have gotten them to sleep past 6:30....This past summer is the first summer that they were not all waking before 7:30 am....
eileen
LOL! Ummmm, she only gets them up on SCHOOL mornings -- you know, things like getting them dressed, giving them breakfast (although ds usually makes his own now), making their lunches and seeing that they leave the house on time for school.
WHY in the world would she get them up on weekends (she's not here), holidays (she's not here) and vacations (she's not here during school vacations -- except for summer)????
During the summer vacation, the nanny's hours are adjusted (we run a different schedule) so that she generally doesn't come in before 9 or 10 am (unless there's some reason i need to be up and out earlier with any of them -- then she comes in so that the others don't have to also get up).
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You're lucky. Mine was always an early bird. For a while there when he was about 5 or 6, he even started getting up at about 5:30...UGH.
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No. He was doing that LAST summer when he was 10-11. WHY did he get up that early??? Beats me -- it's just the way his internal clock works. He was a morning person - just like his mom, i guess.
Now that pre-puberty has set in, he slept in much, much later this summer. In fact, dd did too. It was SOOOO nice to be able to sleep in until 7:30 or 8:00 am. I love sah during the summer!
eileen
Phew.....i was so worried that one of the others had stolen that memo. Glad to know that it must have been a dream sequence....I'm so glad that I've parented MY way and done what is right FOR and BY my kids.
eileen
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