How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Edited 8/30/2003 11:08:57 AM ET by silverunity
Maybe formula is inferior..but it isn't some deadly toxin going into my child's body. The way you make it sound...it appears that I chose poisen.
Although I don't *think* that there is anything wrong me...one would never know. However, I did not ever wish to bf either one of my two girls. It wasn't something I thought about, I never had the urge, I felt very comfortable with formula and wouldn't go back and change my choice for anything.
But ya wanna know what *I* don't get? Is people who are so darn blind-sided by their own choices for themselves, that they can't possibly open their eyes wide enough to see that other people can and do choose differently then them. And that it isn't "gross" or whatever word you could possibly dream up.
I certaintly wouldn't run around saying "I can't understand how a mother could bf her child...that is just gross that the mother would choose to NOT use a bottle. I just can't understand...."
Whether you like it or not, it isn't about what is inferior or superior. BM is superior to formula in many ways...I guess that would automatically put formula as the inferior choice in many minds. However, looking at the grand scheme of things..both provide needed nutrition, both cause a baby to grow up to be wonderful child...so really....looking at the whole picture...neither is "superior"
You spoke of the entire formula feeding concept.
To me, there is a difference.
The thing that gets me is that beth was talking about one particular part of bf'ing. Momofhnk took down the entire concept of formula feeding.
I have not had a post removed so I have not violated TOS and I even reported my post. I told DFL that was what i said was highly unecessary that is why i edited it out, i did admit that to the board that is what I said, Iam not hiding anything by editing out, that is one the thrill's of the upgrade of the new format *that edit button*. Hoestley i think many of us here have displayed ugly behavior and many of us here have proved that...that does not mean we are angry trolls. I admire the ladies who stayed out of it and left there opionion private in via e-mail.
btw i see you are knowledgable with charter schools...I was just called to start working as a aid for the k-2 and iam thinking of putting my children into the school i have nothing but great info...so you have nay thing to offer on your opinion of the school?
Besides, i'm not the one who thinks that time is the be-all and end-all of a GOOD PARENTING relationship. I leave that to you since it seems to completely consume you.
However, you can keep insisting that I'm inaccurate, but since "I'm" the one that KNOWS how i spent/spend my time with my kids and that Parental Time is not the be-all and end-all of parenting, it's a pretty futile undertaking on your part. But keep tilting at those windmillls!!! It's almost entertaining.
eileen
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