How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Was Beth Ann's comment out of line? Yeah, but she was only focused on that one particular part of child-feeding. I have NEVER before heard her EVER (in words or attitude) say that her way was the only right way....which momofhk does at EVERY single turn.
eileen
I am very blunt and to the point, Iam not always right, Iam not perfect, I make mistakes and dont always make wise choice I was WRONG for posting my thoughts about eileen there i s no excuse. I choose my words incorrectly, so maybe as virgo said i need to re-evalute the way I come across it has value. Iam hard to read, it gets frustrating at times and I back lash with misdirected anger. The people I communicate with are use to me...
the saga continues
unity^
I even assumed that we were BOTH reasonably intelligent adults....and could make the best decisions for our children -- EVEN THOUGH those decisions were different (NOT better, NOT worse -- JUST different)....How that makes just YOU an infant/child advocate i'll never know.
Respectfully, it does seem that Childrearing Philosophy Bigot is much closer to the way that you approach your parenting vs. that of others....I'm surprised that you can't "see" that.
eileen
Also, I don't think that CIO is "evil" or "abusive" in and of itself, although it can be abusive if taken to extremes.
Simply said...I wanted to reply.
Now my thoughts are not consumed by you...and your's are problably not consumbed by mine...but you do like to follow me around this board. And S8h$ like that is scary.
Anyhoo i dont understand you last comment. Would you care to clarify?
Please make up your mind and get back to us when you can keep your story straight for two posts in a row.
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