How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Now one of my closets friends who has 4 children breast feed all of em and is still b/f her 3 and a half yr old and i admire her for that...so I quess to you my parenting choices are gross...okay!
Edited 8/29/2003 8:00:35 PM ET by silverunity
edit my post for savcal.
Edited 8/29/2003 8:09:20 PM ET by silverunity
Unless you think there really *is* a store called StereotypesRUs?
Two very different lives (although we both "work" long hours, LOL), but we're both very happy and wouldn't trade places with the other for anything.
Makes me want to go "pffffttt..." to all the studies you quote.
C
I thought the point of women's lib and all that was to give us CHOICES?
C
Hmmm...that's interesting, since just two posts ago I said this:
"I know what the word "unity" means. I have no idea what it means to YOU, nor have I claimed to." - a statement which you agreed with. Honestly, if you're going to play this game, you might want to go back and edit your previous posts so you don't get caught flat-footed again.
<< find it so frustrating that you point out your feelings of my behavior to be childish,trollish,confusing,stereotypical when to me that would be what you have displayed.>>
I think you have me confused with someone else. I've only said your posts are confusing.
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Excellent advice. Perhaps you should follow it? Sorry, but you've already lost all credibility in the "let's not get personal" department.
I don't think you're giving our daughters credit where credit is due, CLW...C
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