How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Edited 8/30/2003 8:47:17 AM ET by cyndiluwho
In case you would like to know, my daughter has grown up to be a wonderful person..smart, hard working, funny and compassionate. No damage done by letting her cry. There are other ways of parenting besides running every time your child makes a peep. I didn't raise my children to be the center of my universe..I wanted them to be balanced and realize that they are not the only human beings on the earth and it starts from a very young age.
Sue
Let's see, moms who let their kids CIO are offensive, disgraceful and disgusting, and moms who won't BF are gross. I can hardly wait for your insult du jour..
I agree with Eileen on the entertainment factor, I'm enjoying your superior mommy rant, so do go on, I enjoy a good laugh.
Now at 20 months, if there are people around, even in a dimly lit bedroom, she forces herself to stay awake. She never wants to miss a thing.
SUS
You've just got to laugh.
Oh, btw, their advice? Don't cater to his demands. It worked.
How old are you?
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