How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:20am
So what are you saying? I also think my decisions are right for my family but I would never think it the right way for every one that is plain silly.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:21am
OMG!!!1 i was thinking the same thing....just couldn't figure out how to write the theme so anyone could understand it, LOL!
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:27am
When someone dribbles from the mouth and it land's on my screen I may surely offer them a tissue to wipe the dribble from their mouth.

There is no concept to miss, I can be in many different places at many different times in cyber space and I see you need more tissues. ICK!!!




Edited 8/30/2003 3:38:01 PM ET by silverunity

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:28am
Ya know, I was thinking the same thing just wasnt sure how to put it so you would understand...LOL~. That is amazing isnt it.


Edited 8/30/2003 10:32:59 AM ET by silverunity
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:36am
Excuse me, you told eileen she was Dead on in her assumption of where I shop, AND Iam not the one who started the personal debate your group is. So in reality your group only think's what they want believe to be true about me. Speaking in term's of creditablity Im not the one who started the "lets get personal" so no, im not the one who has lost the creditability. not imo.




Edited 8/30/2003 10:52:27 AM ET by silverunity

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:43am
Umm sure you did TM Would you like to me to provide the link? You think this post is clever? Thats really sadistic, it is offensive, imature, rude and harassing. Thankyou for providing me with proof of your mannerisms and what you find to be acceptable behavior from someone who not only is a grown women but a mother.



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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:48am
Older than you.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:53am
I realize this. That isnt the issue. I did not take literal or personal. What I am debating here is you cannot make that claim from my thoery "you make valid and great points"

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sat, 08-30-2003 - 9:56am
You certainley entitled to think as you may but seriopusly you cant, in reality know until i tell you otherwise. So what you think your thinking is nothing but trashy thought. would you like to know what i seriously think of you? Im sure you dont care or at least i would hope not.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:00am
It looks like you choose me. Do you actually think this offeds me? lol If your trying to offend me it will never happen I dont take this board personally. I have to admire PJM at least she know's how to stick to debate and not personally chase somone all over the board with her personal opinions and problem with another poster.


Edited 8/30/2003 10:20:01 AM ET by silverunity

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