How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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As sahm is the natural thing for me to do, Iam not interested in having a career, if i am to ever go back to work it would be par time working as a aid with the little ones in a school.
Edited 8/30/2003 10:12:33 AM ET by silverunity
You're also assuming that the SAHM does NOTHING outside of her family (as if that WEREN'T enough). . .SAHMs often volunteer, thus contributing to society outside their family.
I just don't agree with your tendency to look down on people based upon work status any more than I agree with P&Js tendency to look down on people based upon status and prestige.
ROFLMAO....WOW, arent we sensitive. i dont look *down* on people who bf a *child* after three, i just feel the whole concept is gross. has nothing to do with what i think of a particular person. confused, are you? i dont even like the idea of bf a child after the age of one, but that is just me. i dont "look down" on someone for it. geesh, get a grip.
I don't think anyone but you claimed that one 'type' of parent was contributing MORE to society than the other.
i think people take this board too personally, dont you?
Edited 8/30/2003 10:28:00 AM ET by silverunity
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