How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:03am
Alow me to clarify to you dear...for me the natural thing for me as a mother is to bottle feed. I loved bottle's and all the different colors, feeding was a exciting time for my infants and I enjoyed bottle feeding them. I did not enjoy breast feeding.

As sahm is the natural thing for me to do, Iam not interested in having a career, if i am to ever go back to work it would be par time working as a aid with the little ones in a school.


Edited 8/30/2003 10:12:33 AM ET by silverunity

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:07am
Your bias is showing. . .your assuming that the doctor is a surgeon, rather than 'simply' a general practicioner. Not that a GP doesn't contribute, but surgeons have specialized skills that GPs don't have.

You're also assuming that the SAHM does NOTHING outside of her family (as if that WEREN'T enough). . .SAHMs often volunteer, thus contributing to society outside their family.

I just don't agree with your tendency to look down on people based upon work status any more than I agree with P&Js tendency to look down on people based upon status and prestige.

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:08am
some people are simply uncomfortable with it. whats to understand?
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:12am
<<<<>>>>

ROFLMAO....WOW, arent we sensitive. i dont look *down* on people who bf a *child* after three, i just feel the whole concept is gross. has nothing to do with what i think of a particular person. confused, are you? i dont even like the idea of bf a child after the age of one, but that is just me. i dont "look down" on someone for it. geesh, get a grip.

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:13am
"In such a case, the value isn't her SAH but in her volunteering. However, this is no more important than WM's supporting the schools financially."

I don't think anyone but you claimed that one 'type' of parent was contributing MORE to society than the other.

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:15am
thank you, misty. im not even *trying* to offend anyone. i simply dont care for the idea of nursing a three year old, or a two year old for that matter, but i am not judging the person who does it, as some of my best friends have done it. i simply dont agree with the practice.

i think people take this board too personally, dont you?

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:20am
No, I claimed that doctors contribute more to society than SAHM's.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:21am
Nope, just picking one specialty rather than typing a lengthy all inclusive list.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:21am
That is a false claim. Doctors do not contribute more to society than a sahm, how?
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:25am
I agree with you DC can be benificial for children if it is used properly and not abused. It can be harmful for some children to remain home and never have the priveladge to interact with others in a dc/preschool enviorment.






Edited 8/30/2003 10:28:00 AM ET by silverunity

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