How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 12:04pm
No clarification necessary (for a change), dear. I understand how much you loved all the different, pretty colors of the bottles!
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 12:07pm
well then, it looks like we've come together on this one. i have a job that is not my dream job by far, but it pays fairly well, for not having a degree and i dont mind going to work everyday, at all. dh's job pays very well for he not having a degree, but does have technical school(completed). we are by far not wealthy or even rich, but comfortable with a nice roomy well kept home, good quality furniture, and two fairly nice cars, a rental home, and two condos the kids live in. the college wiped us out, in that any money we would even consider using has been used. we will not touch the 401ks at all, nor will we sell the homes. mtgs, yes, but we are handling it all.

with the prospects of jobs already, dd plans on helping us pay off the mtg we took to finance college. she is a double major in spanish and communications, and has a wide range of well paying jobs to look at.

sorry for the miscommunication on my part. looks like we agree once again!!

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 12:15pm
Actually clarification is in order... you dont understand, I loved bottle feeding my infants and i made it fun and exciting for my family.

If all you feel the need to do is follow me around this board spouting diatribe i will inform you that is harassment. shoooo~


Edited 8/30/2003 12:18:50 PM ET by silverunity

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 12:36pm
Whatever you say, honey. What color is the sky in your world?
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 12:52pm
It is the most beautiful sky blue, at sunset it can be beautiful colors of pink,red purple and oranges our rainbows around here are vividly colored.

You posted to me first I did not post to you. YOU posted to me and your diatribe is persistent,troubled, disturbing ,pestering , persecuting, malicious , false worn down bitter discourse and not only is that harassment but SLANDER.

And you ask me how old Iam.

Like i said shoo~








Edited 8/30/2003 1:49:08 PM ET by silverunity

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 1:43pm
Look at it this way. What would the consequences be if there were no SAHM's and look at the consequences if there were no doctors. I think there's a big difference in the consequences here, lol. A world without SAHM's doesn't change much from what it is now but a lot of people will needlessly suffer and die in a world without doctors.


Edited 8/30/2003 1:45:23 PM ET by cyndiluwho
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 1:47pm
Again, I ask, imagine a world without SAHM's and imagine a world without doctors and compare the two. Yes, doctors, as a class, contribute more to society than SAHM's, as a class.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 1:55pm
Again. . .you are entitled to your opinion. . .and I don't have to agree with it. . .

I prefer not to look at the world in generalities. . .you want to, go for it. . .to me, generalities are a step away from stereotypes. . .and I'm not interested in going there.

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:13pm
Oh goody. Yes ma'am. I'm not yet 25. We have 3 children.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:16pm
What about SAH makes sleep deprivation easier, in your opinion.

And I don't look like a zombie. (I was joking.) I don't feel like a zombie either. It doesn't bother me. I've had little ones for almost 6 years. I got over it quickly with number 1.

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