How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:35pm
You really need to start reading the posts you are responding to. I know it is silly, but you were disputing me first and I was explaining. You do know that if you click the "in response to" link you can see what post that person is responding to?
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:46pm
Breast milk has been scientifically proven to have antibodies in it that cut down on allergies and such. It is also nutritionally better than formula. That doesn't mean formula is bad.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:49pm
Perhaps it does but I dont believe it to be true for us..I know many children who were breast feed who have horrible allergies and poor heath. I have never had this problem and I never breast feed.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:51pm
LOL, I take it you think the impact would be equivalent between a world with no SAHM's and a world with no doctors. I don't.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:53pm
Iam not disputing you I was asking you questions. Why you think certain things and trying to fiqure out what you are saying.

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:55pm
I found sleep deprivation for my family easier with SAH. (JMO here) Because I SAH, my dh could sleep all night without being disturbed. This was extremely important in his line of work at the time, I'm not sure I would have wanted him climbing 200 ft trees (or higher) on half a nights sleep. If I were working, both of us would be on half a nights sleep. On top of that, I was able to nap during the day. I'm not sure how that will go this time around (with #2) but hopefully I can get the newborn to nap while ds is in preschool. And my dh will still get a full nights sleep.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:55pm
Sleep deprivation is much easier to handle when staying home because

a) You don't necessarily have to jump out of bed, shower and get your act together and leave the house,and be thinking early in the am. A SAHM can shuffle around in their p'j's and mumble incoherently for a few hours.

b) They don't necessarily have to make any intelligent, precise, costly decisions while operating on reduced brain power. Maybe the toughest decision a SAHM might have to make any particular day is what to make for dinner.

c) If tuly exhausted, a SAHM can nap when her children do, a woh mom cannot.

By the way, I SAH and WOH a few days a week when I was sleep deprived with young children, trust me, working was killer on a few hours of sleep, the days I stayed home were a godsend. The babies didn't notice if I couldn't multiply or form a compound sentence, let alone read binary code.


Edited 8/30/2003 4:02:45 PM ET by islimshady

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 3:59pm
I never said it improves it for everyone. The point is it is FACT that breast milk is better than formula. Do you honestly think they could manufacture something to copy it exactly? And as I was saying, that doesn't mean formula is bad. Or that you are harming a child by giving him formula.
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 4:00pm
That was a rhetorical question...Anyhow...

How did you do that? See, you ARE capable of typing a semi coherent post. Why don't you have some respect for your fellow posters here and put some effort into being understood in all of your posts? It's obvious that you're capable.

PS, you need to look up the definition of "slander".

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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 4:02pm
I think the impact would be different, but quite possibly equally negative.

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