How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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a) You don't necessarily have to jump out of bed, shower and get your act together and leave the house,and be thinking early in the am. A SAHM can shuffle around in their p'j's and mumble incoherently for a few hours.
b) They don't necessarily have to make any intelligent, precise, costly decisions while operating on reduced brain power. Maybe the toughest decision a SAHM might have to make any particular day is what to make for dinner.
c) If tuly exhausted, a SAHM can nap when her children do, a woh mom cannot.
By the way, I SAH and WOH a few days a week when I was sleep deprived with young children, trust me, working was killer on a few hours of sleep, the days I stayed home were a godsend. The babies didn't notice if I couldn't multiply or form a compound sentence, let alone read binary code.
Edited 8/30/2003 4:02:45 PM ET by islimshady
How did you do that? See, you ARE capable of typing a semi coherent post. Why don't you have some respect for your fellow posters here and put some effort into being understood in all of your posts? It's obvious that you're capable.
PS, you need to look up the definition of "slander".
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