How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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But so long as your family relationships are strong, you have "enough time" with them.
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Do I really *need* my $184K-ish home? Well, yeah. I couldn't *buy* anything cheaper to replace it (and since my mortgage is now less than half the resale value of the house, I could never HOPE to qualify for a mortgage for even another condo in my own neighborhood). And I sure as HECK couldn't afford to RENT anything even close to comparable.
In fact, the best I could do would be to rent an apartment about 1/4 the size of my condo and pay roughly twice the rent than my mortgage costs me now.
You aren't frugal; you're pound foolish.
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