How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:29pm
What if she doesn't want to be anything else?
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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:31pm
TOO LATE!! I saw it! I saw it!!
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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:32pm
Yup.
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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:33pm
Not as much as having more fathers leave the work force.
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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:34pm
Oh, PLEASE tell me you didn't just say that.

You honestly believe that statistic means EVERY woman gets paid less than EVERY man in the same job?

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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:37pm
If the end result is the same, why did you make such a big deal out of the "some people just can't handle it" angle?

You weren't talking about the end result, you were making a jab. At least have the guts to own up to it.

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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:38pm
Yes, I can see how sanitizing things has nothing to do with cleanliness.

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:41pm
Can you elaborate? I'm assuming you're not talking evolution in the scientific sense, since the timeframes being referenced here preclude that.
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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:41pm
Hmmmm, thinking back to my high school days ... and the top 10 students in our class .... 2 had moms that didn't WOH. And one of those was a farmer's wife who did major amounts of work on that farm, so she doesn't fit the SAHM bill.

Hollie

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Sat, 08-23-2003 - 6:42pm
The people who are subjected to it.

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