How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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And I responded in that vein ... you DO pay people to clothe your children, feed them, etc ... none of us do 100% of it
Hollie
We're not talking about paying someone to LOVE your child, or to RAISE them, or to be theri parent. That would be wrong.
Hollie
eileen
I would like to be born a man in my next lifetime, LOL!!!!
:)Rachel
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Excuse me... but I think a lot of WM are doing what THEY want to do while many SAHM's are doing what needs to be done. While many WM are working because they have to provide essentials, SOME are working to buy that bigger SUV, that bigger house, go on that fancy vacation. What is noble about that? At the same time many SAHM's are doing without the above (SUV, house, vacation) to raise future adults.
Poof!!! I'm gone!!
KaCee
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