How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Honestly, then you helped set us women folk back when you became a SAH years ago. You have some time to make up now don't you, not to mention the harm you caused for all woman-kind.
BTW--I must grovel my thank you for keeping the option door wide open for me, my girls and all future misty generations. We sincerely appreciate it.
(snork)
To *me*...that would be rising to the occasion.
One of my earliest memories is standing in the back yard at about 2:00 a.m. looking at a comet. I was about 4. My parents also let me stay up (or got me up) for things like new year's eve or snow flurries (snow is a BIG deal where I live). Why is letting a child stay up late occasionally for a special event bizarre?
As for keeping a journal, since when did that become weird?
As for journals...isn't journaling all the rage in the U.S. this days?
Laura
When I worked, the way we always did it was any and all childcare was paid from my check, as I was the parent making the least amount of money. So, while our money was combined, we were always mindful of what we were paying out in daycare and taxes and whatever other expenses we had due to me working.
I guess the OP just struck me as a slam that only MOM was expected to pay for childcare, and while I'm sure that is the case in some marriages, I think most just take it out of the secondary income...at least that is my experience between my friends and myself.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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