How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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That's ALL i was doing.
eileen
I'm an engineer and being in and out of the office is normal for us. Dh is a computer programmer and for him being in and out of the office is normal. Dh's boss is the business owner and he is in and out of the office all day. Even dh's secretary can step out for lunch or to run an errand if need be. I see the kind of flexiblity I have all over the place. When I think inflexible job, I think hourly worker or something like teacher where you are on a certain schedule and have to find someone to cover your work while you are gone, though with substitutes teachers do have some flexiblity if they know in advance they need off. In my job, dh's job and even my doctors job to a certain extent, some of our work can be done at any time. It simply doesn't matter if I write a report that's due at 10:00 AM at 6:00 PM the night before or at 6:00 AM that morning. I do have to get it done on time but there's no time stamp on when I do it. Dh's job is the same way. Sometimes, he'll go in Sunday night and do all his back up so he can take off Monday morning. My doctor can read lab reports at 6PM or 6AM as well. Unless you're punching a time clock, the kind of flexiblity I have is likely. I'm not an hourly worker so it doesn't matter what time I do some of my work as long as it's done by the deadline.
I'm having a laugh here thinkning about flexibility for sanitation engineers. I think you'd have to include time to shower and change before going to the school to see that play.
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