How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 1:34pm
Sure, I would absolutely agree with that. I don't necessarily agree with most of Cindy's opinions...I was just doing my best to express why her opinions may not necessarily be contradictory.


Laura

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 1:47pm
I didn't make any presumptions, I went on your statement, which was apparently not very clear...you clarified it later. I read charlesmamma's post and your response and, frankly, still couldn't find any hint of the explanation of your meaning that you provided later. As I said before, on debate boards it helps to write very specifically...words are easy to misinterpret if the poster is not clear in the first place, And people will take you at your word.


Laura

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 1:54pm
It seems to me you had, i thank you for your tips and may think of them if i feel that i need them to make a point.

here was the post i was refering to read above and below i believe it supports my stance my position and my commment clearly without having to explain unless asked.


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-pssahwoh&msg=12027.647







Edited 8/24/2003 2:00:18 PM ET by silverunity

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 1:58pm
Yep, that is the post I read too. It says absolutely nothing about anyone's feelings about dcp, so I don't see how it could be used to understand your meaning about CLW's feelings for dcp as explained later.

Laura

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 2:03pm
Understood soIam glad i explained it to you so you could see my comments to be unharmful and factual. :-)
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Registered: 08-02-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 2:48pm
"Breeding" is a derogatory term generally used by the CF. Nice to know parents use it too.;-) Definitely says quite a bit about what you really think of having kids. But then if you liked it you wouldn't be camping out on the boards.
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Registered: 08-02-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 2:57pm
riiiiiiiiight.
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Registered: 08-02-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 3:00pm
You're right, I wasn't at the bowling alley. We're not the "bowling alley" type. Also, SAHM's pick up the slack EVERYWHERE for WM's. The school is the most obvious example.
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Registered: 08-02-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 3:02pm
Of course you say that, like you'd admit to putting others out. Facts speak for themselves.
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Registered: 08-02-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 3:06pm
Hardly. We pick up the slack you create during the week when your working and on the weekends when you're catching up on things that we do during the week. School isn't the only place we do it. You just happened to want to pick it out because the truth hurts.

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